It’s important to understand exactly what premature ejaculation is in order to fix it. Surprisingly there are varied definitions, but I find the most accurate definition of premature ejaculation is when a lack of ejaculatory control interferes with sexual or emotional well-being of one or both sex partners. The emphasis is on control rather than time. Most men who experience premature ejaculation are more upset about the inability to govern when they ejaculate. The time from insertion to ejaculation varies from person to person. Scientific data on this subject is conflicting. Some sources cite three minutes as the time for an average male to ejaculate while others say the average ejaculatory time is anywhere from six to ten minutes. Common sense says everyone is different and you have to know your own body to determine what is normal for you.
Obviously, you should see your doctor for any suspected sexual ailment. When you do visit your doc, she may diagnose you one or two ways:
Primary and secondary premature ejaculation
You have primary premature ejaculation if you’ve had the problem for as long as you’ve been sexually active.
You have secondary premature ejaculation if you developed the condition after having had previous, satisfying sexual relationships without ejaculatory problems.
Premature ejaculation can be caused by certain biological conditions:
-Abnormal hormone levels
-Abnormal levels of brain chemicals called neurotransmitters
-Abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system
-Certain thyroid problems
-Inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra
-Inherited traits
-Nervous system damage resulting from surgery or trauma
-Withdrawal from narcotics
In addition, there is definitely a list of psychological factors that can contribute to premature ejaculation. Fortunately, premature ejaculation is a common problem and is not difficult to correct. Lasting longer in bed is a learned skill, not something one is born with. So, what’s next now that you know for sure what the problem is? You can correct the problem by examining the physical and emotional aspects.
Start by learning your body. You should be comfortable with your body and sexual response. You should know when you are about to come and when you’ve reached the “point of no return.” Usually this happens through a variety of sexual experiences over time.
Breathe
Most people are surprised that the easiest way to reduce stress or anxiety is to breathe. Focus on taking deep, controlled breaths; this will help to control your ejaculatory response.
Talk
Communication is a simple concept, but it’s not easy. Opening up to your partner and talking truthfully about your sexual desires is important to a healthy sexual relationship. Both partners should feel comfortable talking about their wants, needs, and desires. Talk and talk some more. Talking openly will clear up many misunderstandings, assumptions, and alleviate any ambiguity. And it will free you to make choices based on what you know about each other.
Therapy
Talk therapy or counseling requires you to talk about your experiences and relationships with a sex counselor or mental health professional. These sessions will help you overcome performance anxiety and find better coping techniques to deal with stress. Sometimes couples dealing with premature ejaculation see the therapist together. Your therapist may also prescribe medications and discuss sexual techniques such as masturbating an hour or two before intercourse to help delay ejaculation during sex. She may discuss avoiding intercourse for a period of time and focusing on other forms of sex play in order to remove the pressure from your sexual encounters.
Condoms
In addition to providing protection against STD’s and pregnancy, condoms decrease stimulation of the penis during sex. This reduction in stimulation helps many men last longer.
If you are feeling frustrated or ashamed realize that premature ejaculation is a common problem that can be treated. Talk to your doctor if it’s putting a damper on your sex life.

Brandon’s verbal humilation causes her boy toy premature ejaculation.