What this article is not: a one size-fits-all instruction manual. I purposely did not entitle this “The Perfect Handjob” because no one is perfect and everyone is different. Different strokes for different folks. Seriously, some of these techniques may work great for one person while it may do nothing for another. So, don’t take any of it too seriously. Just read on, enjoy, and have some fun with your partner.
A lot of men feel that women aren’t too adept at handling a penis. Which makes sense, because we weren’t born with one and have no idea what it must feel like. Many women don’t know much about the male member except that when it’s happy it gets hard and it shoots white cum out of the head. Regardless of the size and shape of the male anatomy (it can be big or small, thick or thin or in between) a woman that knows how to rub the magic stick correctly has a leg up. Her sex life will be more fulfilling because she will know how to properly please her man. Penis size is not really an issue, for most women a bigger penis does not equal more pleasure.
The first thing a woman must master is the grip. How hard do I grip it? you ask. Harder than you think. Imagine a cake maker using a tube of frosting to decorate a cake. She applies a firm, yet gentle grip to the tube of frosting. That’s what you want to aim for: a firm, yet gentle grip. Take some time to explore your man’s penis from the testicles, up the shaft, to the glans and head. You’ll notice the glans and corona are very sensitive parts. Play with his testicles by gently cupping them in your hand (be gentle and careful not to squeeze them–this will end your fun for the day). After all this article is not entitled, “How to Give a Brutal Handjob.“ One of his balls may be bigger than the other; one may hang lower than the other; this is normal. Let him know how big they feel, how it turns you on to play with them. If you feel like talking, talk. Talking can be very, very sexy.
You may find that after a period of exploring his penis your man has a nice erection. His penis might actually start to produce it’s own natural lubricant, pre-seminal fluid, or unscientifically pre-cum. If it’s a substantial amount you may use this to lubricate the shaft. However, a good lube is a great tool to have on hand. A drop of lotion works great and it’s quite inconspicuous to have a bottle of lotion near one’s bed. (Whereas, a bottle of KY Jelly is quite obviously a tell tale sign of sexual activity). Before I continue the discussion of lube, there is one thing I must stress: pour it in your hands and rub it to warm it up before applying. There’s nothing like the shock of cold lube to a man’s penis.
There are several different things you can use for lube:
* Lotion
* Saliva or spit
* Sip of water
* Store bought lubricant (Wet, KY, Astroglide, etc)
Now, most ladies may be put off by the whole spitting thing. So, let’s move on to store bought lube. There’s oil based and water based. Oil based lube is a bit more messy because it can stain the sheets (like Vaseline). Water based lube tends to be more hygienic and I think it lasts longer. You can experiment with different flavors and some lubes contain a warming gel. Use whatever works for you.
There are three basic positions for a handjob:
* Woman between the guy’s legs
* Guy standing while she kneels
* Side by side
I say do whatever is comfortable and whatever works for you. Of course there are lots of other positions to try as well. Just take a look at Hand Domination or any other handjob site for that matter.
At last we are going to talk technique. Here are a few strokes to add to your handjob repertoire :
The Anvil Stroke
Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile you’re bringing your corresponding hand down to the top of the shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name “anvil stroke.” Think of those blacksmith duos who keep up a double beat pounding motion as they beat that rod of iron on a piping-hot anvil.
Best Fist Forward
Place your fist against his perineum as you’re stroking him. He’ll probably start opening his legs a little wider, giving you more space to press against. Guaranteed to drive him wild.
The Bookends
Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while. The constant tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the trick.
The Base Clutch
Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft, pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as an impromptu cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in your hand. If the skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more friction, thereby enhancing the excruciating experience.
The Door Knob
Turn the head of his penis like a you’re trying to open a door knob coated with grease. It won’t turn, but he may flip. Now try turning the other way. Repeat.
The Double Whammy
How about going double or nothing! Bring both well-lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands. If your partner’s doesn’t, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you’re holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There’s no doubt that two hands are better than one.
The Flame (also known as The Pastry Worm)
Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from the cock. Pretend you’re a campfire girl and start spinning his pecker like a stick of wood. This way you’ll keep the home fires burning for a long time to come.
The Love Tug
As you are stroking him, lightly pull on the wispy strands of pubic hair sprouting from his testicles. Don’t pull so hard that you remove them, but tease them gently, lovingly. This will make him holler with delight and awe at your inventiveness.
The Milker
Opposite of the Anvil - Hands alternate ‘milking’ up the penis, starting at the base and working all the way up past the tip.
The Palm Swirl
Use your open palm to swirl around the head, the way your tongue would lick an ice cream cone. This sensitizes the head, and will make it get larger and turn (even more) red. Try reversing direction for a surprise.
The Perpetual Penetration
Like the Anvil, but rather than just grabbing the penis at the top, let his penis ‘penetrate’ into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous for best results. Try faster or slower to taste.
The Ring
Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger, and pump up and down with this ring. When you get to the top, close the ring, then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.
Tiny Circles
As in “The Palm Swirl”, use your open palm on his glans, but stop at each “hour of the clock”, and make circular motions with your open palm. This will make this part of the head EXTREMELY sensitive, so move to the next hour after a few circles.
The Two-Timer
Tickle his balls with one hand while the other jerks him up and down.
The Shaft
Stroke only his shaft, ignoring the head. You will notice it swelling and turning red. When it’s bright red and rock hard, use the Door Knob, the Palm Swirl, or the Perpetual Penetration.
The Shuttle Cock
Not many people have heard of the “shuttle cock,” but it’s one of the best. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of yourself holding a clarinet. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly thrilling to him at first, but pretty soon, as it builds up momentum, it will drive him out of his mind. Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes messy, but always memorable.
The Spot Pinch
Lightly and slowly run a finger up the under side of his cock. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch it, squeeze it, nibble it, tease it. This is a good spot to pinch to turn a soft cock rock solid.
Take some time to add some of these to your sexual bag of tricks. And ladies, I highly recommend you read this right before you try the act on your man (he will love it, trust me).
For some cool educational videos check out:
Handjob Advice.com
And for more information on human sexuality see:
Sexuality.org
Have questions about male or female anatomy? Check out this nifty presentation:
Behind the Fig Leaf
