According to the Sinclair Institute’s Annual Sexual Health Survey, the sex lives of many Americans leave a lot to be desired:

70% feel that they do not have a totally fulfilling sex life
More than 37% have sex less than 12 times a year.
More than 60% say that their sex lives would benefit from trying something new. For example: videos, toys, more frequency
50% say being a better lover would affect other parts of their relationship
80% engage in some form of foreplay
40% use videos, sex toys or adult books to enhance sex
40% of respondents who have never watched a sex education video would consider buying one

The good news: now is the time for New Years’ Resolutions. Why not add some spice to your sex life? Tell your girl/boy toy something naughty. A secret fantasy or fetish or two. Buy some sex toys and test them out. Watch some porn together, then discuss it. If you’re still turned on try some mutual masturbation.

At the very least, continue to read my blog. You’re bound to find something that interests you and yours. And if there’s a topic I haven’t explored feel free to send me your ideas (via the comments box).

Here’s to a sexy and scintillating new year!

I love this topic. Masturbation. I find that people are one of two extremes here. They’re either extremely proud of the fact that they masturbate (fuck yeah, I rub one out every day) or extremely secretive. There’s no reason to be ashamed of one’s body and one’s own sexual gratification. And yet in the 21st century I hear incredibly antiquated ideas about sex. I’m not about to get into a political debate, instead let’s take a look at the science.

Masturbation improves sexual health by increasing an individual’s understanding of his or her own body and of what is erotically pleasing, building self-confidence and fostering self-acceptance. This knowledge can then be carried forth to make for a more satisfying sexual relationship with one’s partner, both through each partner’s comfort with mutual masturbation, and because of the ability to tell each other what is most pleasing.

-Sinclair Institute

Sexual activity seems to have a protective effect on men’s health. Mortality risk was 50% lower in men with high frequency of orgasm than in men with low frequency of orgasm.

-Caerphilly cohort study, British Medical Journal

Common Colloquialisms for masturbation:

beat off UK
buffin’ the muffin female
choke the chicken US
diddle female
finger oneself female
hand job
jack off US
jerk off US
play pocket pool UK
play with oneself
pleasure oneself
pocket billards UK
pull one’s pud
self-abuse
self stimulation
service yourself
skeet Canada
spank the monkey
toss primarily British
toss oneself off UK
wank primarily British
wank off Britain
whack off

Hopefully you are aware that masturbation is a perfectly normal activity. So feelings of angst or embarrassment need not apply. Some people masturbate alone or with their partner. Or, with others as in a masterbate-a-thon:

Masturbate-a-thons are public, charity events that are ‘intended to encourage people to explore safer sex, talk about masturbation and lift the taboos that still surround the subject.’

-wikipedia

Strange fact:

In the 1700 and 1800’s more than 60% of physical and mental illnesses were blamed on masturbation. The fear of masturbation was so widespread that people were encouraged to avoid it through mechanical restraints (the ol’ chastity belt), genital surgery, and physical discipline (lashings anyone?)

Jessica lightly rubs her clit during foreplay.

‘Mother I’d Like (to) Fuck’
mothers, whether married, separated or divorced, that a male individual sees as physically attractive enough to want to have sexual intercourse with them. Just cuz they’re moms doesn’t mean they don’t need a spark in their love life. If they’ve ever breastfed, they have really responsive nipples and a core of erectile tissue in their breasts. The ones in good shape have worked at regaining control over their vaginas (Kegel exercises). MILFs are usually real careful about birth control, they know accidents happen but they take responsible steps. They want to fuck with abandon, with no romantic complications for their under-19 family.

A MILF is any mother that is sexually desirable.

- urbandictionary.com

 ‘Cougar’

An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf. Cougars are gaining in popularity — particularly the true hotties — as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together.

That cougar I met last night, showed me shit I didn’t know existed, I’m goin back for more.

- urbandictionary.com

So, describe this MILF thing…

Horny young man, curvaceous older woman. For some, taboo = erotic fetish. How did this once taboo erotic fantasy become an established (and accepted) fetish? MILF seems to hold a positive connotation. A lot of women are happy to be portrayed as the hot older woman the younger guys want. MILFs are glamorized on television in shows like Desperate Housewives and The Real Housewives of Orange County.

On the flip side, no woman wants to be associated with a cougar, a predator of young men. She hunts, prowls, and pounces. This cat in heat will go to any length to get her paws on some young meat. With the advent of the MILF phenomena, the cougar no longer seems to be such a put down.

Take the MILF taboo a step further and you get the mother son fantasy. The mother son theme involves a mother who fucks her son (or vice versa). I’m not sure why guys get off on this. One expert stated that men who fantasize about their mothers desire a woman who will take charge during sex. They want to let go while an older women calls the shots.

MILF Terms:

MILF
cougar
mother son incest
mother son fantasy
Hot Mom
yummy mommy

Rachel scolds her son for his poor grades. His poor prick must pay the price for his lackluster academic performance.

Sugar daddy. Givers. Gifters. Men who enjoy buying things for a mistress. These men are submissive in a financial domination relationship. Financial domination is a fetish in which someone (usually a male) pays money or buys gifts for their master (usually a female) and receives humiliation in return. This financially submissive man  can be referred to as a pay piggie or pay pet.

There’s a lot that goes into financial fuckery. Financial domination can be done in person, but it’s usually carried out online or by phone, without physical contact between participants. The willing male can send a tribute or offering to his mistress online in exchange for her attention and instructions of humiliating acts he must perform for her (such as taking pictures and emailing them to her).

Other terms associated with financial domination:

Financial Princess
Financial Domme
Money Mistress
Financial Slavery
Financial Servitude
Financial Foreplay
Monetary Monogamy
Spoil
Consensual Blackmail
Financial Sadist
Findom
Financial Fetishes

Lexi talks about taking money and gifts from her doting boyfriend who endlessly spoils her while dominating another man’s cock.

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Social bookmarking is a way for Internet users to store, organize, share and search bookmarks of web pages. In a social bookmarking system, users save links to web pages that they want to remember and/or share. These bookmarks are usually public, but depending on the service’s features, may be saved privately, shared only with specific people or groups, shared only inside certain networks…

-wikipedia.org

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