Humiliation can be verbal or physical, private or public. Erotic humiliation is a consensual act that uses mental humiliation in a sexual manner. People get off on the mixed emotions they feel while being demeaned or while causing the humiliation. This is not to be confused with a dominance activity like bondage or face sitting. Bondage activity can be used as a vehicle to get to the humiliation.

Verbal types of humiliation:

1. Verbal belittlement, such as “slave”, “boy”, “girl”
2. Insults and verbal abuse, such as “fat”, “ugly”, “stupid”, “worthless”
3. Degrading references such as “slut”,”bitch”, and “whore”
4. Slighting of body parts or behaviors, such as disparaging or cruel references to breasts, facial appearance, genitalia or genital size, bottom, and slighting of mannerisms such as walking, responsiveness, standard of self-care.
5. Having to ask permission for everyday activities such as toilet, or eating or spending money.
6. Small breasts humiliation, poking fun at the supposed inadequacy of a woman’s breasts or her inability to please a man (and by implication her essential worthlessness as a woman and her breasts becomes an object of play for the man).
7. Small penis humiliation, poking fun at the supposed inadequacy of a man’s genitals or his inability to please a woman (and by implication his essential worthlessness as a man and his penis becomes an object of play for the woman).
8. Forced repetition: being obliged to repeat back commands to confirm them.
9. Forced flattery: agreeing that every decision that the dominant makes is wise, correct, and justifiable while additionally praising the dominants physical and personality traits.
10. Mockery and ridicule.

Physical types of humiliation:

1. Defecating, spitting, slapping, ejaculating or urinating on the bottom’s body or, especially, the face.
2. Performance of menial tasks or abusive workload such as cleaning the floors with a toothbrush.
3. Frequent performance of passive/aggressive sexual services for the dominant, such as erotic massage, cunnilingus, analingus, or fellatio without expectations of reciprocal acts or intercourse.
4. Detailed accountability and control (micro-management) as to time spent or activities done, including list of jobs to do, precise directions as to how the housework is to be performed, and exactly how to act and behave.
5. Specific rituals and affectations to be adopted. This includes displays of subservience, such as lighting cigarettes, walking behind the dominant, only speaking when spoken to, kneeling or prostrating in front of the dominant when expecting orders, eating only after others or eating on the floor, and a variety of body worship activities such as kissing and licking the dominant’s feet, boots, buttocks, anus, vulva etc. to express acknowledgment, subservience, shame, or even positive emotions such as happiness or excitement.
6. Suppressed Freedom of Movement. This may include never being able to leave the room in which the dominant is present without permission, and may be forbidden to leave the house or ‘dungeon’ in general for the duration of slavery or servitude.
7. Detailed punishments for a variety of ‘infractions’ or misbehavior, such as having to stand in a corner facing a wall for several hours, flogging or whipping, and forced exercise.
8. Role-playing as “lower status” beings such as animals (such as a dog) or babies.
9. Spanking, whipping, restraint or other BDSM activities such as cock and ball torture (CBT).
10. Prohibiting certain type of clothing. For women a common example is being told to only wear lingerie. For men, this may include feminizing or cross dressing. Both sexes may be expected to go completely in the nude, with decorative objects such as collars, bands, or cuffs being the only coverings.
11. Use of chastity belts or other means of erotic sexual denial.
12. Wearing of external signs of “ownership” such as a collar.
13. Having friends, family or strangers aware of or witnessing one’s treatment (for example, public humiliation).
14. Erotic objectification, where the bottom is cast in the role of an object, such as a footstool.
15. Cuckolding

Nurse Jamie verbally humiliates this poor prick in order to save it.

Facesitting is often used in Femdom play. Facesitting involves a woman sitting on her partner’s face to facilitate ass worship or allow for oral sex. In Femdom and BDSM the submissive partner may be restrained by a restraining device or simply held down by the weight of the dominant partner. Facesitting is very similar to smothering, however, in smothering the partner is often deprived of air almost to the point of suffocation.

Veronika Raquel enjoys some facesitting while tormenting her partner’s cock.

Called “non-nude” or “NN” non-nude photography is a type of photography that depicts women in sexually suggestive or implied poses. Subjects are never completely nude. There are a number of online forums and communities where non-nude photographs are shared by members. The guidelines of each community differ in what is allowed (only implied nudity to erotic and hardcore sex photography).

Many prominent men’s magazines feature non-nude photography (Maxim, for instance).

Aaralyn Barra

Alanna Ackerman

Faith

Hand Domination members can enjoy non-nude photographs of each handjob model as well as erotic photos and model interviews.

Ladies vs. Gentlemen

Ladies

Most ladies I know like to use their hands or a device like a vibrator or dildo to get off. Some ladies use lube and their hands to rub their breasts, nipples, and to caress other body parts during play. Water from the tap or shower head is enough stimulation for some. Some gals can even get off by rubbing against a pillow, partner’s leg, or furniture. Women can also get aroused by crossing their legs and contracting their thigh muscles.

Gents

A common technique for most men is to grasp the shaft of the penis loosely and rub the hand up and down until orgasm. Some like it fast, others slow. Male masturbation technique varies from person to person. For more on handjobs see my article “How to Give a Great Handjob.” Men masturbate more than women (or at least admit it more) according to scientific studies.

Mutual Masturbation is when two people (or more) stimulate themselves, usually with their hands. Sometimes mutual masturbation is used as an alternative to intercourse and casual sex. And it’s practiced by people of various sexual orientations.

Other health benefits:

1. Studies show that people who masturbate more have sex more
2. Masturbation may increase fertility during intercourse
3. Masturbation can relieve stress and depression (do we really need a study to prove this?)
4. Masturbation may help prevent heart disease (or in medical-ese there’s an inverse association between death from coronary artery disease and orgasm)
5. Masturbation is believed to be a healthy alternative to casual sex and prevents the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (although this is supported by health studies, this unpopular view led to the dismissal of US Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders…go figure)
6. Both Sex and Masturbation lower blood pressure

Jessica Drew enjoys some self love and invites her partner to join in on the fun.